Believe it or not it’s okay to say ‘No’ to being a caregiver, even for a parent or other loved one. Far too often we have a tendency to feel guilty if we say no to taking care of someone who is always been there for us.
Growing up, our parents were most likely there for us well after we had come of age. They were likely there to provide financial support, emotional support, and even to give us a roof over our head. As a result, when they reach a certain advanced age and begin to have trouble taking care of various things at their own home, the guilt we feel by turning them away when they ask for help (or don’t ask for it, but it’s clear that they need it) often drives us to make decisions we wouldn’t otherwise make.
If your aging mother or father, or another elderly loved one, is struggling to perform day-to-day activities (like home maintenance, personal care), or if you feel he or she is no longer safe to live alone, you may be tempted to become, although reluctantly, the caregiver.
Perhaps you live close to your loved one, so it makes sense to take provide his or her care. Right? It seems like a reasonable solution. However, living close to each other doesn’t necessarily mean that becoming the caregiver will be convenient or beneficial to you or your loved one.
You likely have a full-time job, a family, and other responsibilities that must be met. The moment you begin working as a home care provider for your loved one, you will quickly realize there’s a lot more involved than just stopping by and checking on them every few days. It all depends on each individual, but in many cases the needs of the elderly individual end up being more than the family member anticipated.
Thanks to an increase in home care agencies throughout the country, you really don’t have to be a caregiver for a loved one. Support your loved one, but encourage him to hire a professional home care provider. An experienced and dedicated provider may allow your loved one to enjoy life more knowing that his or her needs are being met without causing stress on the family. Say ‘No’ to being a caregiver…it is certainly okay.
If you or an aging loved one are considering hiring home care services near Spartanburg, SC, contact Heart of the Carolinas Home Care at 864-991-3116.
Providing Home Care Services in Greenville, Simpsonville, Greer, Anderson, Spartanburg, Mauldin, Seneca, Laurens,Charleston, Columbia and the surrounding areas.