Accepting help from other people can be very difficult for your elderly family member. It could be so difficult, in fact, that she demands more and more from you as her needs grow and change. Finding the right balance between meeting her needs and respecting her wishes might mean hiring elderly care providers. Here are a few reasons your senior might not want help.
She Doesn’t Believe She Needs Help.
Your aging adult has been taking care of herself for a while now, most likely. It’s entirely possible that the thought of needing help hasn’t ever occurred to her before. In fact, the concept may be so foreign to her that she can’t fathom it at all. Approach the topic carefully because you don’t want to imply to your elderly family member that you feel she’s incapable of taking care of herself.
She Is Fiercely Independent.
Many senior family members identify strongly with their independence. If that describes your elderly family member, she may not be happy about you picking up her slack for her. She also may resist the idea of working with elderly care providers at all. You may have to work hard to get her to realize that you don’t want to curtail her independence at all.
She Doesn’t Want to Meet New People.
Your elderly family member might equate accepting help from elderly care providers with meeting new people all the time. This doesn’t have to be the case. If she meets a care provider with whom she is able to establish a solid relationship, you may be able to avoid switching people around too often. Of course, a little bit of socialization with new people can do your elderly family member some good if she becomes open to the idea.
She Wants to Defend Her Privacy.
Other than independence, her privacy may be the next most important thing to your aging family member. Make sure that you let her know that you’re doing everything that you can do to preserve her privacy for her. In fact, bringing elder care providers to her home gives her even more privacy than she would experience in some other living arrangements.
Once you have an idea why your elderly family member doesn’t want help you can start to offer solutions for those issues. It’s possible that she simply doesn’t realize that you’re trying to make her life easier rather than more difficult. Finding a balance is key to keeping everyone happy.
If you or an aging loved one are considering hiring elderly care in Greer, SC, contact Heart of the Carolinas Home Care at 864-991-3116. Providing Home Care Services in Greenville, Simpsonville, Greer, Anderson, Spartanburg, Mauldin, Seneca, Laurens, Charleston, Columbia and the surrounding areas.
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